Initially when you think of patterns you are running, you might first think about things like biting your nails, or patterns like what you do right when you wake up, or your commute to work.
These are definitely patterns. But there are other patterns you are running that you may not even know , in regarding what you are allowing and not allowing to come in your life. Do you have a pattern of saying no when you are offered help? I mean it in every form. If the grocery store worker offers to carry out your bags, do you say no before you even have time to think? So what if you don't need help, why not take it? Do you feel better about yourself that you can load in all your bags in your car?
Or maybe there are things you could ask for help but don't. Make a list of areas in your life where you potentially could ask for more help. For example, if you have someone in your house who could make you lunch or breakfast in the morning and that would really help you-why not ask them? Yeah you could do it by yourself, but if someone is able and willing to do it for you and it would help you be more successful (successful as in staying on schedule, time, goals, energy, etc) then it is a win win. Give people the opportunity to serve.
Do you have patterns of arguing with certain people? If you constantly argue with the same people, take note. For both people are likely living in an automatic robotic state. And when you and that person go near each other the brain basically says "Oh- when we are around this person, these chemicals will be released" Chemicals releasing the feelings you feel when you fight with them. You are not really living in the present moment, you are just re living the same argument over and over again about a different subject matter.
Do you have a pattern of backing out at the last second?
Do you have a pattern of procrastinating important things?
Don't feel bad if you do, because you just became aware. So the next time you feel yourself backing out or procrastinating, just clap your hands and say CHANGE! And make a new choice. We always have the opportunity to make a new choice. You are not tied to make the same choices you made in your past. You get to create a new you.
XOXO
Annie
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